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Let's face it-parenting is the toughest job in the world. It also is probably the most stressful one as well. As with everything you want to do well, parenting requires learning different ways to do the job most effectively. The following are some ideas for stress management in your role as a parent.
Draw strength from family and friends. Call on people who can make you feel good about yourself, feel hopeful, or feel loved. Try to avoid people who make you feel angry or sad because anger makes stress worse.
Make a list of things you like to do. Pick a few items and find the time to do those particular things. Adding things that you love to do is a wonderful way to relieve stress from your life.
Take a brief mental vacation. Take a deep breath, close your eyes and imagine yourself someplace pleasant and relaxing. By simply removing yourself from the situation for a short time will help you face the stress with a new perspective.
Keep yourself strong. Eat a balanced diet, get plenty of exercise and try to concentrate on your own physical well-being. This may mean that you'll need to rely on family or friends for childcare occasionally, but it is important to keep your body up to the challenge of parenting.
Be flexible. With the busy schedules in your children's lives, be flexible enough to admit that you aren't perfect. All people fall behind the schedule sometimes. So, know that there will be times when something falls through the cracks. That's life-go with the flow.
Anticipate problems. If your child likes to play with the stereo and that bothers you, move the stereo. Replace it with some safe toys so that you're creating a special play area for your child. Always look for a way to eliminate the item or items that might cause stress for you.
All of the above are good ways to handle the stresses of parenting. Don't let stress get you down. Be optimistic and understand the sources of stress in your life and find ways to relieve as much stress as you can. Contact your family doctor or seek the help of a qualified therapist. For more information on stress related solutions, you can contact the Mental Health America Hotline at 1-800-969-6642 or log onto www.mentalhealthamericajc.net .