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All of us are touched by the loss of someone we love and grief is a natural reaction to any change or loss. Grief is a painful experience, however, it is said that the pain eventually subsides. Because everyone experiences a loss or change at some time in life, understanding grief can help you face the reality and deal with feelings of fear, loneliness, despair and helplessness. You can recover and grow to be a stronger person and grief is just part of the healing process. Grieving people share certain feelings, such as shock and denial. Their first reaction may be to deny the loss or to feel emotionally numb. Eventually, they'll be able to face the reality of their loss. Many people feel anger because the loss may seem unfair. They may feel angry with themselves and others for not preventing the loss, but one can work through that anger. Others may feel guilt and blame themselves for something they did or didn't do prior to the loss. Remember, we are only human--there are events we just can't control or undo. Many who have suffered a loss feel drained and unable to perform even routine tasks and this is definitely a sign of depression. One who is grieving might feel very alone with increased responsibilities and changes in their life. As they meet new challenges and develop new friendships, these feelings will fade. All grievers will reach a stage where they can accept their loss and look to the future with hope. No matter how difficult life may get, they can pull through! Here are some suggestions for living with a loss:
  • Express your feelings. Holding painful feelings inside can create more problems
  • Accept help. Friends and relatives can make difficult moments easier. For many people, participation in and support from their spiritual community can be a great comfort.
  • Ask for help. Relatives and friends want to help but often don't know what to do. Professional help is also available if feelings of despair and worthlessness persist.
  • Be kind to yourself. Some days will be more difficult than others, but you will recover.
  • Do activities you enjoy--such as taking a walk, going to a movie or reading.
  • Get plenty of rest. You'll have more energy to handle problems and to get involved in activities.
  • Be alert for problems. If you don't seem to feel better over time, it may not be due just to grief. Poor sleep, weight loss and low energy may be signs of depression a treatable condition.

Some sources of group help might include bereavement groups, Parents Without Partners at or 1-800-637-7974, American Association of Retired Persons (AARP) Grief and Loss Program at or 1-800-438-3410, and Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD) at or 1-800-438-6233. Check the front section of your phone book for the phone numbers of these and other sources of help in your community. You can also check out

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