Everyone face conflict in his or her life and itís a natural part of relationships. But it is how you deal with the conflict that is important. Conflict, itself, is a disagreement among two or more people and it occurs when these people see things differently. For example, a child and a parent may disagree on what a clean room should look like. Another example might be that two people have different ideas on how something should be done. Sometimes conflict occurs because misunderstandings jealousy, or money and it make people angry.
Conflict can make you feel stressed and frustrated. You may be anxious because of work, family, health and money problems. Frustration is prevalent when things arenít in your control or if things do not work out the way you would like.
Learning to let go of what you cannot control and to focus on things you can, will help reduce this frustration and stress. Often times these feeling of stress and frustration will make you angry.
Anger is a natural emotion, but needs to be dealt with in appositive way. Unresolved conflict can lead to violence. Anger can lead to verbal attacks, physical violence, abuse, and crime. The consequences of this violence can be injury, hurt feelings, prison time and death. All violence does is make the conflict worse.
The following ideas may help you when you are facing stress which could lead to conflict. Regular physical activity is a great way to work off stress. Get at least 30 minutes of moderate physical activity three or four time a week. Having a hobby can be productive outlet for tension and anger. Deep breathing exercises can calm you when you feel tense or angry. Another relaxation technique might be visualization, where you imagine a pleasant, peaceful scene and focus on it for a set amount of time. Some people feel that talking to others who will listen is also a good technique to relieve stress. You can be a good listener for someone else who is stressed.
If you have to deal with someone elseís anger, keep calm and donít take it personally. Try to understand why the person is angry. It may not have anything to do with you. Remember, safety first.
Your health care provider, counselors, social workers, and clergy are good resources to help you with your anger and resolve conflicts. Remember try to always focus on ways to resolve the conflict without anger taking control.