Everyone faces conflict in his or her life and it's a natural part of relationships. But it is how you deal with the conflict that is important. Conflict, itself, is a disagreement among two or more people and it occurs when these people see things differently. For example, a child and a parent may disagree on what a clean room should look like. Another example might be that two people might have different ideas on how something should be done. Sometimes conflicts occur because of misunderstandings, jealousy, or money and it makes people angry.
Conflict can make you feel stressed and frustrated. You may be anxious because of work, family, health, and especially in our world crisis today, money problems. Frustration is prevalent when things aren't in your control or if things don't work out the way you would like. Learning to let go of what you can't control and to focus on things you can will help reduce this frustration and stress. Often times these feelings of stress, frustration, and just being annoyed will make you angry. Anger is also a natural emotion, but needs to be dealt with in a positive way. Unresolved conflict can lead to violence and violence never has a happy ending. Anger can lead to verbal attacks, physical violence, abuse and crime and the consequences of this violence can be injury, hurt feelings, prison time and death. All violence does is make the conflict worse.
The following ideas may help you if you are tensed and stressed and more likely to get angry when faced with conflict. Regular physical activity is a great way to work off stress . Get at least 30 minutes of moderate physical activity on most days of the week. Having a hobby can be a productive outlet for tension and anger. Deep breathing exercises are good and can calm you when you feel tensed or angry. Another relaxation technique might be visualization, where you imagine a pleasant, peaceful scene and focus on it for a set amount of time. Some people feel that talking to others who will listen is also a good technique to relieve their stress so you can be a good listener to help others with their problems as well.
If you have to deal with someone else's anger, keep calm and don't take it personally. Try to understand why the person is angry as it may have nothing to do with you at all and most of all remember, safety first. Trust your instincts and if you feel threatened or unsafe, get away as fast as you can.
There are many good sources of help available if you're having trouble dealing with your anger. Your health care provider, counselors, social workers and many hotlines may provide emergency counseling as well as religious leaders in the community. Just remember to always focus on ways to resolve the conflict without the anger taking control.
Mental Health America Jackson County
P.O. Box 51
Seymour, IN 47274
Phone: (812) 522-3480
Fax: (812) 524-8176